If you haven’t seen it, there’s a viral math problem that has the world divided. When I first saw it—with the catchphrase: Can You Solve This?—I felt smart immediately because for once I didn’t scratch my head for too long before remembering how to attack this bad boy.Read More
Surely, your dreams and passions aren’t more important. Right? I mean, look at that person over there following the same dream and being successful at it. There’s no way you’d match up . . . or keep up . . . or ever accomplish the same things. Are you even good enough?Read More
There's a difference between educating myself with the do's and don'ts of writing, soaking up all the tips, testing how to break the rules, etc AND a difference with learning about myself as a writer.Read More
Because Life Likes to Bite You in the Ahem and Laugh at You!
Remember June? That time I made a big deal about being “back” to writing posts . . . and books . . . and getting my crap together?
Well, immediately following that post (like three hours later), WordPress decided it wanted to do us wrong. We tried to mend things (the usual end-of-relationship kinda way): we cried, they cried, had counseling chats, played the blame game, smiled at the memories, and had the “it’s not you, it’s me” talk.
It was them, though, not us . . . so we broke it off.
Then we did what any new “ex” would do. We buried ourselves in ice cream and workouts for a proper heartbreak-revenge cycle (it’s called balance). We had to find a new home, transfer our content, and say goodbye to all your awesome thoughts you’ve shared with us over the past couple years. I would have copied & pasted all the comments but didn’t want to seem like a comment hoarder. It’s just . . . it made me sad. So now we’re back with a new look and we’re in a committed relationship with Squarespace.
With all that, I’ll admit I had a “poor me” moment.
If you read the post I mentioned above, I was happy “being back” and was trying hard to let go of my writing insecurities. Then WP* glitched horribly (they lost a lot of our articles, messed with the podcast coding, locked me out as admin, etc.), and I was back to feeling like it was a sign I shouldn’t be writing or creating anything. Ever.
Luckily, life doesn’t only smack you around. It also gives you exactly what you need. This all happened around the time schools closed. So I was able to enjoy being a mom this summer. I did a lot of creative work, went on a girl’s trip with my editor, had fun with WAD’s** website possibilities, and had a lot of coffee (yes, I’m pretty sure that is a big factor in my happiness . . . and the survival for those around me).
I loved spending time watching my kids laughing, running, swimming, and having conversations with them. They’re seven years old so you can imagine just how amusing they are. Time I would have otherwise spent worrying over a post, a podcast production, or stressing over getting a scene just right. And while these are all things that make me who I am and are my passions, there’s nothing like watching my real-life creations to remind me that yes, I can, in fact, make beautiful things. But since I’m done making little humans and the twins are back in school, I’m going back to creating fictional characters and writing about life . . . through the eyes of this storyteller.
So I’m back.
Raymond too. He’s hiding somewhere, but you’ll hear from him soon.
**WAD = Writers After Dark
By S. Katherine Anthony
S.K. Anthony (Shanny) is a writer, a reader, and make-stuff-up-er who lives in New York. She is an award-winning author and a bestseller on Amazon. When she isn’t busy with her toddler twins, S.K. finds herself being transported into the world of imagination. Well, either that or running away from spiders . . . she is convinced they are out to get her!
I didn't want to let anyone down. But because of that, I've let myself down. I spent so much time writing for others that I forgot to write for myself. In not wanting to fail, I've inevitably been living in failure. In comparing myself to others, however, I've found my truth.Read More
You know how my writing process works? Via miracles. Seriously. I'm a pantser so when an idea hits me, I sit down to write, and I wing it. If I start trying to figure out the plot, structure, or the why of things I stress out and . . .Read More
The less you know before you start writing, the greater chance at discovering new possibilities. Personally, I feel constricted when I have an outline. Not everyone works this way, but . . .Read More
Dialogue, as we all know, is an essential part of any novel. But it’s a lot more than just words. More than having your characters interact with each other. And it’s way more difficult than we realize.Read More
Would you allow me to share with you my deepest personal dreams? And promise not to mock me, when I lose myself enough in your acceptance, to gift you with the intimacy of my most vulnerable thoughts. . .Read More
So here's the dirty truth about being a writer . . . Awriter who is a mom that is. Or rather a mom who is a writer. Because no matter how much I try to ignore my 6-year-old twins, it turns out I can't escape them. Not even if I hide in the bathroom to write.Read More
Personally, I like thinking I can organize every single detail of my writing. I love the idea of outlining. I love the idea of knowing exactly which word to place in front of another. Realistically, I'm a big fail on that. First, because I'm a pantser. Second, because no matter what, writing can be a messy business.Read More
Storytellers are naturally intrigued by the many possibilities that our creative peers have to offer. And because of this, we're quite aware of the mistakes writers tend to make. It's even more interesting when we realize we've made the same errors. Sometimes repeatedly.Read More